A journey to understanding love
The secret is that love (hated, aspired, left, enjoyed, suffered) can change you.
Love is the core purpose for the pursuit of our meaning. We want to know if there is a reason for existence, life, trouble, chaos, order; for our thinking minds to fall in love with the adventure of it all.
Love and change
You just get to decide which way, and how to spread your change.
We´ll see that throughout our lives, there´s so much to experience, talk about, dream and ultimately fall in love about.
We at a certain stage, have visualized love, maybe not experienced it, but we have heard it, imagined it, described it.
Now, is love in itself a simple feeling? A call of destiny? An unnatural sentimental ideal? Believe it or not, love is one of the things in this world, as for today´s knowledge, that can´t be explained, that can´t be fully comprehended but that can be fully lived.
And for us to give it a meaning, we must surpass a type of change, of progress not only of our mindset but also of our soul. We achieve that progress, that change, when sacrifice meets reality, and hope not for more or better, but for staying.
Now, these changes aren´t perpetual nor are they a curse for eternity. These changes are up to us. We give them a narrative. Either we construct meaning, or we take it away.
And that narrative will determine our view of them, even if most times these little steps to progress are just a sole step for better well-being.
The compound effect is what makes these little steps turn into a big one. And this can be discouraging, as we don´t know how far we´ve come with those tiny new sparks of hope, and the sacrifice starts to feel without purpose when in reality, the milestone is way nearer than it was before.
How to understand these changes?
There´s no better or worse form to do that, and neither there´s a plan for achieving a full understanding.
We can only interpret those meanings with the tools, experiences, and values we have, but at its core, the message will remain the same: love can hurt, love can be outstandingly chaotic, romantic; love can be our finest dream.
The process for guiding our sense of love is a complex one, full of deviations, turnarounds, several endings, and stories to tell.
And the funny part is if our inner vision is aligned towards the true meaning of love, then our own “narrative of love” is going to guide us on our discovery mission for what love needs of us to change and move forward.
Let me make an emphasis here, we are talking about understanding the process, and not on a superficial level, and for doing so, we need to find causes, roots; we need to visualize, feel, and have a conversation with our emotions, our memories.
It´s not just a hard thing to do, it´s also a painful one. And that pain can perdure as long as you don´t live it. Living it implies hearing those inner conversations you have late at night, those sentiments that rise when there´s silence. It´s deeply connecting, not rapidly evading.
You have to let them exist, for you to know how to make peace with them. Making them disappear won´t solve a thing, making them visible will put you on the right course of action. A problem can only be solved once it´s presented to us. So why not start there?
And love is…
Love is our perpetual search for meaning not only for our life but for the reasoning behind it as a whole.
We want hope, and hope is also a derivative of love. We want success and happiness, and guess what, love is also a pillar for both of them.
It´s our solitude that pushes us to love and find love in life, but it´s also our selfishness that refuses to accept the quests it has brought to the table.
We can´t blame it for being uncomfortable with us. We are just seeing love with the wrong glasses, and even if we do see it with proper ones, love is a life-long process of self and mutual discovery, with a significant other, with us, with life.
Love is the pureness in life, is its magic, its roots. Love is indeed everywhere, unfortunately, we are too blind to see it. We are too closed to live it. We are too afraid to live it.
Read this twice or as many times as you need to. I hope it can encourage you to take a better approach. As always, let me know how it goes, would be awesome to share the love for love.
The Weekly Update
🤍 Been focusing on the art of healing and renewing. It´s been a difficult time, and my character has been proven through it. I just reflect, breathe and continue walking, as for it is the best I can do, and is in itself, the best.
💡 If the idea is to peril, then keep it all to yourself, as even if you can hold the world in your hands, it won´t be enough when time passes by. Be mindful, be present, and keep humble.
📚 Haven´t been able to read so far this week, but I´ve been thinking constantly about this next phrase: What´s the reason you haven´t given up? A tough one yet an inspiring push for the week.
🎙️ Currently hearing The Pathless Path: How to Recreate your Life and Career, a chat between Ali and Paul Millerd (Author of the Pathless Path). It was a friendly reminder to continue walking with disruption, creativity, all with peace and success in mind.
What I´ve worked on this week
Previous Life Brew
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The Lonely Reflection
What would happen if you can carry on despite your past?
What´s stopping you from achieving this?
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